Shelly R. Wilson

You Have to Ask

To begin with, I have to acknowledge that I am one of those people who take action immediately. If I say I am going to do something, I do. I am quick to return phone calls, emails and messages even if the reply is short and to the point, saying “I’ll respond to this more in depth in a few days.”

Understandably, I know that people are busy and other things take priority, which is where my frustration arises. Without a doubt, this is one of my life lessons for this incarnation as Shelly Wilson. I have to recognize that not everyone is like me in that regards and that just because someone says something, it doesn’t mean they will have follow through. I shouldn’t take it personally.  I am the only person that can make me feel discouraged or rejected (or any other emotion for that matter) so it’s important to release any attachment to the outcome.

I recognize that everyone is having their own human life experience. We are each unique with our own personality traits, behaviors and perception. I also know that what is important to me may not be important to someone else. Therefore, sometimes we have to spell-it-out, be very clear and ask for what we want.

This message came through loud and clear during the Healing Path Expo mid-December in Eureka Springs, Arkansas. I woke up Wednesday morning feeling low on energy yet knew I needed to attend Deerwomon’s presentation. The message I needed to hear was – “Don’t assume people know what you want and can read your mind. You have to ask for what you want.”

When she said that, my feathers got a bit ruffled. I thought, “Seriously, I have to ask?”  Then, I realized that my perception is different from another. What is important to me may not be as important (or even on the radar) as another. Whoa…. Could I do this? Would I really be able to ask for what I want? The mind chatter was chattering away – I’m not sure because I don’t want people to think I have ulterior motives if I do ask nor do I wish to impose on anyone.  Then, I quickly realized that people don’t have a problem asking me.

While working the Spirit Fair this past weekend, two very clear messages came through during the pre-fair circle. Saturday’s message was “Observe, Allow, Let go.” The messenger continued by saying, “We are all ready to emerge out of our cocoon. No one can help you do so or you’ll wither and die because your wings aren’t strong enough to support you.”  This made complete sense. We can ask for guidance and support from others, but ultimately it is up to us to take action and do the work ourselves.

Sunday’s message was “Ask for what you want. Don’t think that people already know. You have to ask.” Of course, this was validation/confirmation of the message I received a month earlier.

I am definitely reaching out and asking for what I want yet releasing any attachment to receiving a response. I know that you have to ask the question first. You have a 50/50 chance of receiving the answer that you desire. Yet, if you don’t ask your chance is zero.

The question may be acknowledged or ignored. The response may be yes, no, maybe or not at this time.

Nonetheless, you have to ask.